Days ago while I was watching a three-part interview between three human beings with weight in the world of tennis, especially in Spanish, but I would say that even internationally, it made me reflect on certain aspects, until almost at the end of the interview, it was released a phrase that would open my entire horizon of reflective thoughts about it, since it was closely linked, let’s say that in parallel to an interview that I saw of a YouTuber who makes videos from prison, as well as to situations that we continue to live daily, already our own personal situations, the danger of normalizing something that has much more hidden behind it than meets the eye.
The phrase that opened the can to this article: “Now is when I need you most …”
A priori, the phrase for the vast majority of society may seem harmless, but what is really behind it? I will explain it to you point by point:
- Non-existent Emotional independence.
- Non-existent personal development.
- Inexpensive Emotional Transformation.
- Non-existent Internal Freedom.
- Non-existent option of access to Emotional Intelligence.
* I only list the points, I do not go into integratively explaining the reasons, it would take a long time and a long extension, which you would not be willing to read, although along the way of the article you can get to get some context if you have the sufficient level for it.
Remember that in some cases, very few, I would say, the forceful word Non-existent could be exchanged for limited , as a result of the fact that there has hardly been some evidence or a process without rhythm towards the end of each phase to get to obtain internal freedom without any prop to hold any of our parts, the only way to access the understandable concept of Happiness , something that I have repeated many times, which allows a natural performance of our potential, although emotional states of other human beings or external factors promoted or not by human beings that may interfere with our natural life process.
In life, we all agree, in sport and outside of sport, from childhood we are taught to be economically independent and to have our own autonomy of mobility , but absolutely nothing to be emotionally independent , that leads the human being, even to the living being to be very oblivious to their vulnerabilities, even going so far as to ignore them, avoid them or confront them directly and without compassion, turning them into their own weapons allied to themselves; and this effect carries a deep ingrained, rust attachment with spreading danger (like car rust) to the following points:
- False Self-concepts.
- Self-flagellations.
- External approvals.
- Own and third-party manipulations.
- Codependencies.
- Cover-ups.
- Wrong Complicities.
- Holds of Lies.
- Tuned communication channels.
- False feelings of control (You will never have it).
- Comfortable and routine bindings.
- Absence of Internal Challenge.
- Lack of Self-Responsibility.
* I only list the points, I do not go into integratively explaining the reasons, it would take a long time and a long extension, which you would not be willing to read, although along the way of the article you can get to get some context if you have the sufficient level for it.
Here I could continue listing more consequences, but they all lead to the same emotional scenario , leaving you in the long term, absolutely sold out before life, especially incipient in situations of maximum explosion or human-emotional demand , either in ignorant-extremely limited states where manipulation Silent is overwhelming, as in states of unfinished or fissured emotional development , where the silent conditioning (Rhythms and Habits) ends up being recognized as Own Identity; the most imminent danger in both cases is that the drainage of all this leads you to a state of self-manipulation, that is, to a self-Boycott of all your essence, to live in lies, a false life, away from your inner music, disconnected from the earth, without the ability to absorb and manage any new scenario that you may be acquiring, here it is where THE EGO would come into play , in a starting mode that should never exist.
I am not going to talk about the EGO , nor to define it or to tell everything that goes behind it, from all my experimentation and observation, but I am going to focus briefly on differentiating one of the points, since it concerns us through THE SEATS in In this case, mention it and clarify it, I mean basically, the EGO in coverage mode and the Ego in activation mode, which are part of what I call the EGO action processes , two opposite paths, the first one takes you through three tunnels according to the situations and directions taken, Defensive, Neutral and Aggressive, the other by a single path of recognition and self-awareness of the EGO , the absolute capacity torecognize, act on it, stop it and differentiate it from when it comes from the depths of the heart, the Soul.
Honestly, it is there in that Activation mode , where we should always place the EGO , a simple and humble (Two concepts that we should also learn to differentiate) channel or inner direction from where to enter an alert mode that leads us to react with maximum sensory agility (not to be confused with speed) and therefore physiological , allowing us to instantly foresee any event, a direct anticipation of the situation, a real connection with the fact in the act, imagine what all this means for the body at a mental and physiological level , a natural ally of injury prevention.
* Do not forget that in the placement of the Ego it will have a lot to say if we are positioned internally from the layer of confidence – self-confidence (unfortunately the most recurrent thing) or from the layer of Self – esteem , I do not go into explaining it because it would make it too extensive.
All this content that I have superficially exposed to you, without going into the depth for obvious reasons, since each of the parts or concepts due to the intensities, emotional demands, as well as the integrative and applied complexities themselves, need a responsible treatment much more particular; now if having the base of the emotional tower for the dangerous representation of THE SEATS , it is time that we talk a little about them.
What do I understand by myself by THE SEATS? That generate? What do they imply? …. (* examples at the end)
Definition 1.
The accommodation through the void between two people, a group of people, groups of people and living beings, where one or more of the protagonists is not conscious through the subconscious, within a type of complicit attitude that is being part of a game macabre of self-defense, self-protection and mutual self-conviction of a distorted reality-vision.
Definition 2.
The limitation of movements and inner search, through the push of permanence in a comfort box, through the glass full of approvals, surrounding ourselves with parallel energies (supposed maximum confidence) to hear what we want or wish to hear, limiting any visual space , to the benefit of seeking responsibility for our actions in the possible error of others and to the detriment of a self-criticism to go for our personal development.
Definition 3.
The transmission of our emptiness, that is, all our fears of human beings or living beings located in front of us or that surround us in our days, preventing them from developing their defenses in a natural way without any type of alteration. (Obligations, penalties, demands, load of material objects, … etc …).
Definition 4.
The internal alteration dependent on a human or technological factor, depriving us of an absolutely natural emotional stimulus, through their use as a substitution or grip, instead of as a sporadic reinforcement support, which feeds an apprehensive and entrenched system. co-dependent.
Definition 5.
The training of action and thought towards the human being with a fictitious feeling of authority, transformed into an excited feeling of power, so that the individual or living being positioned in front, represents what they force to represent, with the objective that they feel a fictitious welfare state, after all ephemeral, but justifying. (Egoism of sensations).
The seats, as you can see or intuit, are actions so silent, without noise, that you really do not pay attention to it, paying attention to detect them or as it is in my case, even if you think that I may be wasting a brutal excess of energy As well as believing that I psychoanalyze excessively, simply for the reasons explained variously through my blog, videos and post, it is something absolutely natural in me, coming from that phobia or sensory integration of sounds, or whatever you want to call it and from the work of more than 15 years behind , which simply empowered it (you never stop learning, elevate it), a simple natural gift due to an innate need toalert, very obvious reasons in my particular case (if you have bothered to meet me), more intense according to dates or situations .
The interpretations or what we want to want to interpret have a lot to say in this whole concept, here lies the only courage of the human being, that approach to the true WARRIOR , beyond brute force, living among cottons, bedspreads or what is worse, inviting other human beings, friends, professional colleagues (friends later or not), siblings, parents … etc … to live within co-dependent walls , continue to feed their lie through more than obvious states, and not lead them to a permanent internal challengeThey are very irresponsible attitudes on a human and social level, putting in serious danger first the implicated or implicated and then the unconscious complicit or not (fear or other reasons silence them) followers en masse like sheep without a shepherd.
“Without internal challenge , there is no question of external factors, the challenge is an incentive that we must keep in an active mode always to stimulate a root work that builds our self-esteem against our weak thread of confidence and self-confidence , always in wires. of ups and downs. “
The seats are becoming more and more rooted, an expansion that is interested or camouflaged , as if it were a virus, giving value to permanence in a simple tile, but when they take you out of there, you go sideways and then All kinds of tricks have to come into play through the seats, because the human being as a species has forgotten its yesteryears, accustomed to moving in a herd where it feels some kind of comfort or stimulant of well-being , as unreal as it is weak, This is how we can verify over and over again, that when we approach unknown territories or directly end up entering them, not only do we lack tools and we do not even do to find them, havethe human value of once found to build them inside us, for me that individual or living being, is the true man, woman or animal.
Of course this occurs in all environments, but because of the responsibility that has been wanted to occupy, usually also as a form of seating, but not because of the value of taking responsibility as such, from that emptiness, the very value that being gives. first self-responsible with oneself and then from our own example, then if we access that responsibility with all the necessary tools in our hand, however there is human and social fear of responsibility, normally being crushed without mercy only being used as part of the set of seats, a way of giving or receiving an external value, but never internal, which limits without mercyany human and social movement, by catching itself directly contaminated through an interest of self-protection in the face of our own existential fears.
If I make a much more direct paragraph towards tennis , nationally and internationally, although all of the above in an indirect way is also implicit in the world of tennis , with multiple examples, many very recent and wet with no signs of skinning in the short term, which It is unprecedented even with the current social-health-political situation, there are two tasks that are heard a lot that are part of the seats and that obviously carry a mixture of concepts and permanence of comfort in the face of the confusion that must be made abysmal, I mean to the confusion of Being Consistent with having consistency(a little further down in the examples I talk a little about them), likewise with the push to be your best possible actor to the detriment of being the only possible actor, yourself, obviously this comes from working from the layer of trust and self-confidence and not from the root, self-esteem , where the demand regardless of the seating label that one wants to impose to “feel more comfortable” , will always be very high as rich in long-term reward.
Examples to take to the individual and social human-emotional-spiritual field.
The Thief or thieves.
“At the time of committing a crime, different factors to take into account, even if some do not participate directly, in positions of zero weight, they are an accomplice, in the end they leave traces even if they seem undetectable, but above all they end up being an accomplice of a an act that sooner or later will be punished, generating an exchange of roles and sometimes the accomplice is the one who will not only eat the punishment but also the one who champions the extension of the act without restraint, dimensioning a selective act. ”
The Police or Police Group.
“Creation of the subject’s profile has to be as accurate as possible, that necessarily requires absolute objectivity, including if there are witnesses, the application of objectivity is an indispensable ally, raising it to a beneficial and social duty.”
The / the comedian or the Musician. (Transferable to athletes and other guilds, some new ones that are beginning to emerge)
a mistake and people abruptly condemn them, they do not love them for who they are as a person, nor do they think of them as human beings that they also are, that is what they do according to the ladder of life they have been doing, whether or not they have some minimal management tool or none, what in the end something called success, becomes a nightmare or uncontrollable stress, the seats that have been accumulating, cannot sustain the demand of such a high exposure, ending some in tragic situations, or states of which always they overlap in the media or between society. ” What in the end something called success, becomes a nightmare or uncontrollable stress, the seats that have been accumulating, cannot sustain the demand of such a high exposure, ending some in tragic situations, or states of which they always overlap in the media or between society. ” What in the end something called success, becomes a nightmare or uncontrollable stress, the seats that have been accumulating, cannot sustain the demand of such a high exposure, ending some in tragic situations, or states of which they always overlap in the media or between society. “
“Music is always a good ally, but when used badly it becomes a tool of evasion (most frequently) that, attached to the rusty habit, becomes an enemy of ourselves, well used music would always have a dexconditioning approach, a incentive towards development and creativity “
The bully or the bully.
I always answered and I answer the same, because they are human beings like you and me, but with total security internally they are much worse than the rest, and they taught me to always use Forgiveness, that if in an honest way and not from a selfish feeling of liberation of conscience, after all to execute what is in my area of influence. “
Community, companies, Institutions, pyramid sects. (All known from the inside, now in streaming situations are “normalized” that also become even more noticeable).
“The parallelism between all of them is evident, a product, an offer, a sale and a social mass, we start with a branch, but along the way we distort it towards a self-belief as proper as it is a liar, creating a” healthy “habit of empowerment , feeding and needing to be constantly fed with the psychology of positivism (not to be confused with the use of positive language), that is to say, permanently taking us to an emotional state of excitement, fantasy and energy rush, which goes down as fast as it goes up, an encouragement without psychological – emotional basis which leads to the famous peaks (already mentioned in another article) and enormous attachments to different external factors. ”
“In these types of situations, it is very important to have the courage to break the rhythm of the Ego (something already discussed in other articles), a detail that covers several points, but the first beneficiary is oneself, avoiding entering a vicious and unconscious circle Of falsehood, to the minimum serious problem outside our tile, we will find ourselves without resources to manage it, and later for our departments or communities, to avoid that they fall into the same game that feeds one and the other reciprocally. “
The control. Trained – Dependent from abroad. (Tennis and outside of tennis, out of respect I do not point to anyone, but it happens in all spheres)
“Teaching to control is like teaching how to live, or impose creativity or fun, as we have seen in recent years, as well as clinging to the doctor or the physiotherapist because yes, they have to be there to help vocationally in essential situations, not to generate ties without any attempt at work, evolution and wisdom of the body itself, because all this leads to hyperactivity and psychological apprehension to the smallest detail, without having given it a space ourselves in an ipso facta way. “
“Nothing should be taught but guided, any activity, action, gesture must come with a health conscious orientation, and with standards as objective as individualized, without global recommendations (books, techniques, … etc …) as they have varied psychological levels. , nor classifications that are nothing more than emotional cover-ups of whoever wishes to impose them, being the only places where a map of power as narrow as it is ephemeral is created. “
constancy is what these human beings refer to the most (press, coaches, mental, psychologists … etc) who sell it with another concept that has nothing in relation to it, where it only resembles in the beginning of the pronunciation, but This refers to persistence, perserverance, war without lowering the foot of the accelerator, nor is it going to give up or shut up until it achieves its purpose, … here the cost, the form, etc. would have to be evaluated. There we can find the approach to something similar to mental or emotional strength, but not at all the authentic integrated concept or value of the human being / living being. ” perserverance, war without lowering the foot of the accelerator, nor is it going to give up or shut up until it achieves its purpose, … here we would have to evaluate the cost, the form, … etc … there we can find the approach to something similar to mental or emotional strength, but not at all the truly integrated concept or value of the human being / living being. ” perserverance, war without lowering the foot of the accelerator, nor is it going to give up or shut up until it achieves its purpose, … here we would have to evaluate the cost, the form, … etc … there we can find the approach to something similar to mental or emotional strength, but not at all the truly integrated concept or value of the human being / living being. “
Advances, we walk backwards.
“Technology surrounds us, a multitude of information surrounds us, a lot of everything, or it is different looking internally that differentiates you or you stay in no man’s land, however we go humanly backwards, we do not use them as reinforcement or support, but as substitutions of personal work, we generate apprehensions and closed routines, as well as the fear of finding what differentiates us, which makes the abuse of vulnerabilities prevail, search for seats that “reassure us”. “
“I remember several congresses, promotions, inside and outside tennis, nobody questioned, nobody asked, everything was taken for granted, how easy to manipulate, the deceptive motivation of positivism did its job, or even a simple success to take a slice, but when you asked, you observed by gesture and voice, the essential legs were not taken into account, because they do not know and also the results or the performance were above, however in the long term the favor was not such. “
“The human should not be substituted or self-substituted, children and not so children, while they are not contaminated by the adult human being, the jungle of cities and the world of work, continues to have a spontaneity and authenticity, worth knowing how to listen all the corners, as well as an innate curiosity, currently with the particularity of my long hair, happens to me constantly, the different attracts attention, an emotional richness, interfering in it by imposition, manipulation or conditioning is of such ignorance or as of emptiness for working (inner fear) of the one or those who do it. ”
The vocation.
I knew that programming I hated as much as it was difficult for me to do it, but I was there helping me, encouraging myself, to the point of accessing the Inem course in the summer with that of teacher, love grief came forward, it was a valuarte that draws you towards above. In the second case, perhaps he was not the best communicator in the world, but the passion with which he lived it, we got to go to an alternative cinema with him, he did everything to enter a world as wonderful as photography as old cinema. , although I have put it aside a bit on a professional level, but always excited to go some day to different photographic adventures of nature. ” it was a valuarte that takes you up. In the second case, perhaps he was not the best communicator in the world, but the passion with which he lived it, we got to go to an alternative cinema with him, he did everything to enter a world as wonderful as photography as old cinema. , although I have put it aside a bit on a professional level, but always excited to go some day to different photographic adventures of nature. ” It was a valuarte that takes you up. In the second case, perhaps he was not the best communicator in the world, but the passion with which he lived it, we got to go to an alternative cinema with him, he did everything to enter a world as wonderful as photography as old cinema. , although I have put it aside a bit on a professional level, but always excited to go some day to different photographic adventures of nature. “
“The best photography is always in the head, being present in awareness is the most effective focal point to capture just the moment of what is happening in great detail.”
Social, work, family and personal relationships.
“You must not sell yourself out of principles, loyalties and knowledge, not end up being complicit in condemning others, not intervening in their field or inviting them to situations / events that incite them to continue on the same wheel of lies, increasing the lie to levels out of control, which subconsciously feeds the ego’s level of protection, creating layers and layers of armor that permeates any good intention or predisposition to perform, if they are also given group responsibility, it is a double-edged sword to find their ” comfort “among the permanently unstable.”
“The blind defense of the indefensible, the emotional connection invites to undo the reality of the fact, a disservice towards the person who carried out the crime or the error or even permanently repeats the same mode of action, because at no time does he receive the drawing of a different map to his thought / defensive belief, nor an invitation to reflect on the facts and image that he transmits and gives to others, but especially of his own personal situation, increasing that lie or that perception as dark as it is flat, leads him to situations near the precipice. “
“Lawyer – defense, the self-encumbrance between two beings, I have seen it of all colors in each of those four pillars, seats that do not invite anything and condemn themselves, increasing their load backpack as after the collective if there is collective responsibility, much more aggressive if self-correction time is limited, cunning in reaction (without fear of anything) should be a value to be incorporated in those positions. “
The feeling of belonging.
You will only do it without parallel there is a soul from which to walk in parallel creating a power of mutual growth, free and that if one day one is missing or ends, it will be free and happy, we will not be eaten by states of beliefs or unreal thoughts created in our head through the Psychological Noise (Already discussed in other articles and videos). ”
“I have more than proven the contribution of healthy women in mixed groups can be brutal for physiological, biological and existential reasons, I always abhor all those who observe them as mere sexual bodies (although some are sold like that) as those who they put their arm over it with a feeling of belonging or being superior and submission towards her or them, they have a lot to contribute if we know how to listen to them and we are predisposed to it. “
“I have learned for a long time that before raising something to another more demanding scenario where if you do not get to know the person, you do not know how their reaction can be, especially if you do not have psychological reading, it is stop the situation in the appropriate stage or moment, in which life is speaking to you and not create a denial in which to continue drifting without a port. “
Dogs.
“Dogs represent both the psychology of the owner or owners of the pack, it is abysmal, they must be free, train a dog but respecting its essence, with the appropriate tools, not marketing, as in other situations of the human being, does not reflect The context, they do not question, rather they prefer to dislocate their shoulder or receive bites, and punish without reason, than to observe, understand and find solutions to the context, its adaptability, when and for how long it is beneficial or not, if it is carrying out its function . ”
Leadership always questioned.
“It was a great value to put on the table other arguments that escape from the table, a common point from which to start and put them forward. “
“In sports, we have many examples, but a man like Guardiola who has spent 6 years at Barcelona (I count Barcelona B), 4 years at Bayern Munich, and has been at Manchester City for almost 6 years, that is to say, ability and time to create solid, sensible projects and leaving behind a line of work, with continuity, where after the next one will leave its identity, but there is a more than interesting line of work, especially a criterion, in addition to always saying those who have the ball, They question me, I want them in my team, and I already know that football is all lies and moves on the same Ferris wheel, however if I go to TENNIS, I am not to compare, but it IS VERY SHOCKING !! !! the measuring bars are really crazy, nothing is questioned, human beings who have gone to year by place,without any merely clear criteria, denying unclear pasts, or people caught without moving or now even conditioned by different factors, which I refrain from entering to judge more than what is indicated here, we not only have them hanging around the training or other beach bars, but also they are invited to congresses or events or talks, without any objective attitude that places the measuring bars in a decent criterion, a feeding or elevation of the seats, in this case a mixture of work, personal and social seats, not Only the profession is harmed, but human beings themselves, themselves and those who train from their comfortable fears prostrate in those seats of fear aimlessly. “or people caught without moving or now even conditioned by different factors, which I refrain from entering to judge more than what is indicated here, we not only have them hanging around the training or other beach bars, but they are also invited to congresses or events or talks, Without any objective attitude that places the measuring bars in a decent criterion, a diet or elevation of the seats, in this case a mixture of work, personal and social seats, not only is detrimental to the profession, but to the beings themselves humans, themselves and those they train from their comfortable fears prostrate in those seats of aimless fear. “or people caught without moving or now even conditioned by different factors, which I refrain from entering to judge more than what is indicated here, we not only have them hanging around the training or other beach bars, but they are also invited to congresses or events or talks, Without any objective attitude that places the measuring bars in a decent criterion, a diet or elevation of the seats, in this case a mixture of work, personal and social seats, not only is detrimental to the profession, but to the beings themselves humans, themselves and those they train from their comfortable fears prostrate in those seats of aimless fear. “but also they are invited to congresses or events or talks, without any objective attitude that places the measuring bars in a decent criterion, a feeding or elevation of the seats, in this case a mixture of work, personal and social seats, not Only the profession is harmed, but human beings themselves, themselves and those who train from their comfortable fears prostrate in those seats of fear aimlessly. “but also they are invited to congresses or events or talks, without any objective attitude that places the measuring bars in a decent criterion, a feeding or elevation of the seats, in this case a mixture of work, personal and social seats, not Only the profession is harmed, but human beings themselves, themselves and those who train from their comfortable fears prostrate in those seats of fear aimlessly. “themselves and those they train from their comfortable fears prostrate in those seats of aimless fear. “themselves and those they train from their comfortable fears prostrate in those seats of aimless fear. “
The resources.
In line with all the examples that I have been counting, …
they manage to give themselves a gift, not only in a matter of respect for injuries, but also as long as they are able to detach themselves from certain legs of the seat, to an approach of emotional independence. “
“The other day I was walking around Geneva, well I have done it several times, I stare at the training of a field hockey team, nothing to object to training based on transitions, handling the ball, … etc. The issue of the body positions after the movement, as well as the striking of the strickers, drew attention, in both developing the action not only with physical or effective objective but also psychological-emotional, in that power of the intention that would raise more its performance, gaining awareness and reducing any type of injury. “
* The denial or the invitation to continue denying a circumstance with security rooted in time, is the worst evil that we can do between human beings, there is no power, interest or material good that is worth accessing to achieve something called success, That is anything but success, it is about miserable beings, where vulnerabilities are their food, seats in any area are unsustainable in the long term, they bring too dangerous consequences to take an openly avoidable risk, change our way of looking at those seats, the Sensory perspectives in all their glory is and would be a good start.
* I do not intend to give lessons to anyone, only to transmit different psychological concepts, from a closer language, as well as redefinitions of concepts and languages used.
Faithfully with affection,
A lover & respectful of the values and spirits of whatever sport but specially The hidden on tennis .
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